Leadership is often painted with a broad brush, suggesting only a handful of ways to lead effectively. But if you’ve ever felt like the odd one out because of your leadership style, you’re not alone. The truth is that leadership comes in many forms, and what works for one person may not work for another. The key is to find your own unique way and follow and even gang up with those who lead in a way that resonates with you.
The Struggle of Feeling Different
Many leaders have faced moments of self-doubt when their approach doesn’t align with the conventional norms of their surroundings. Maybe you’re a leader who prioritizes empathy over authority, innovation over structure, or collaboration over competition. If your style doesn’t match the traditional mold, it’s easy to feel like an outsider or question your effectiveness.
A Personal Journey of Discovery
I have had several good leaders who have been perfect for me, but surprise, none of them lead like l do. For me, it took at least two decades to find a leader who I feel shares most of my vision of leadership. Even if I don’t witness his day-to-day interactions, I know he speaks about his people, operations, and ways of working with a tone that resonates deeply with my own. While I still have a long way to go to gain his experience in business or reach the organizational level he’s presenting, I felt an instant connection with this leader even though I don’t know him personally at all. This discovery affirmed my leadership approach and underscored the importance of finding a leaders that mirrors your values.
Embracing Vulnerability and Trust
For me, true leadership isn’t about having all the answers. Sometimes, it takes a lot of courage to say, “I might not have all the technical or substantive knowledge, but I trust my team to bring that expertise.” This level of vulnerability is not a weakness; it’s a testament to your commitment and passion for building winning teams. By acknowledging that you rely on your team’s strengths, you foster an environment of mutual respect and empowerment. This honesty builds trust and encourages your team members to shine in their areas of expertise, ultimately proving that you can achieve success together.
The Power of Finding Like-Minded Leaders
One of the most beneficial things you can do is seek out role models who lead similarly as you do. When you see someone else achieving success with a leadership style similar to yours, it validates your approach and reinforces that there is no single “right” way to lead. It also provides a blueprint for how you can grow and refine your methods.
By following and learning from leaders who share your style, you gain insights into:
- How they’ve navigated challenges similar to yours
- The strategies they’ve used to overcome obstacles
- Ways to build confidence in your own leadership abilities
Learning from Success Stories
There’s nothing more powerful than real-world proof that your leadership style can thrive. Seeking out success stories—whether through books, podcasts, interviews, or networking—can provide motivation and actionable lessons. Seeing someone who shares your leadership approach excel can help shift your mindset from self-doubt to self-belief.
Embracing Your Leadership Identity
The world needs diverse leadership styles because different situations call for different strengths. Instead of trying to force yourself into a predefined mold, embrace your unique approach. Authenticity breeds trust, and when you lead in a way that aligns with who you truly are, you inspire others to do the same.
Have you found your kinder spirits?
If you’ve ever felt like the odd one out in leadership, don’t let that discourage you. Instead, make it your mission to find leaders who share your style and learn from their journey, even if it takes two decades :-). Leadership isn’t about conforming—it’s about bringing out the best in yourself and those around you. For me, the key has been daring to admit that when you lack certain expertise and trust in the capabilities of your team. So, if you feel I speak your leadership language, embrace your own way, harness your willingness to learn and lean on others. Fuel your passion and drive to build winning teams and trust, since that is exactly what the modern world needs. So go out there! Embrace your leadership style, connect with like-minded leaders, and watch how you inspire success in others.
