Two weeks ago, I wrote about unleashing the potential from an organizational point of view.
I know you can work on your self-search and find your potential also by yourself. It’s not always as easy as it sounds. I know a talented musician who knew by the age of five that he wanted to be a drummer, nothing else. I also know a few athletes who don’t have the slightest idea of what they should do. Since sports was something that they always wanted after an active career, it’s no longer possible.
And then there’re people like myself, who have figured out around their forties what they might want to do. Ok, I take comfort in David Epstein’s book Range: Why generalist triumph in a specialized world, where he comments “… learning itself is best done slowly to accumulate lasting knowledge, even when that means performing poorly on tests of immediate progress. That is, the most effective learning looks inefficient; it looks like falling behind.” I’m just a late bloomer ?
Is this me?
But seriously, selecting schools and studies general in my early twenties was like a lottery. I had several ideas I’d like to do, but I soon realized it was nice, but not that nice. I made my decisions about schools based on what was reasonable or expected. In reality, I didn’t have any idea what I wanted to do. I lacked the tools to find out.
Some might be able to relate to the situation where you suddenly realize you’ve been making decisions based on the learned behavior. “Habits and behaviors are defined by what you do and how you react to the world around you,” says Dr. Bryan Bruno, Medical Director at Mid City TMS.
And there are two reasons for this. “In addition to picking up habits from your parents through imitation, science has also proven that some bad habits may be caused by your genetic lottery,”
So you can either swim and dwell in your grab, or you can use it to grow something beautiful.
To start with – have you slept enough?
Here she goes again!
If you’re trying to figure lifechanging things, make sure you have your brains are tuned in the right frequency. My receipt for better understanding and brain functions comes from my foundation. which I wrote about last week.
I can also recommend a book about making better decisions (unfortunately only at this point in Finish). Helena Åhman and Harri Gustafsberg are describing why you should take good care of yourself in order, have an excellent situational awareness for decision making.
At first – find your internal motivation
We all have essential psychological needs which can be called motivators. Filling those need affects directly to your satisfaction level. And everyone is responsible for his or her fulfillment.
Everyone has a unique way of defining their motivators. If you can track 2-3 most important ones, it does wonders to your satisfaction level. Sometimes it is hard to write lyrics about your motivators. I was also struggling with mine. Luckily someone had written those out already.
The 9 motivators are Security, Exchange, Adventure, Influence, Expression, Freedom, Expansion, Recognition, Communion.
Check the free motivators test (Sorry only in Finnish)
The most important thing to realize is though if you recognize your top 2-3 motivators, you feel yourself more balanced, efficient, and even happy. If you don’t will boredom, stress and in the end, hate start taking over. You can remember the tasks you get the kicks out and the ones you’d dream of delegating to someone else. The difference is touchable.